The Audacity to Lie


Definition [via Dictionary.com]

–noun

  1. a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.
  2. something intended or serving to convey a false impression; imposture: His flashy car was a lie that deceived no one.
  3. an inaccurate or false statement.

–verb

  1. to speak falsely or utter untruth knowingly, as with intent to deceive.
  2. to express what is false; convey a false impression.

This post is inspired by a friend of mine on twitter. A random couple of tweets but it struck a chord and I thought I should share it.

Lie to me all you want but make sure i’ll never find out the truth. Coz if i do you just lost me forever.

Serene, calm and protected in the mother’s womb, if the word innocence had any meaning, that was as a fetus in the earliest phase of Life. The moment a child is BORN, it is welcomed into a world where it is suddenly exposed to battling alone the ‘new, unfamiliar’ insults from the environment.The first relationship the child ever makes is with her mother. The petrified child longs to curl up in the arms of the woman who bore her, with an innate assurance, a trust, that she will protect from all ill.

As the child grows up, she traverses through varying phases of trust  – a familar face, a person who treats her with chocolates, toys, affection; a person who plays|spends time with her etc. Soon before you know the girl is grown up, has a mind of her own, an attitude [maybe influenced] and the default perception that family and trust are synonyms and every other invariably needs to tread the path of friendship, to develop a trust.

Wish I could share some stats on the appalling rise of divorce in the Indian scenario.

At one point of time, it was fair enough to have blind faith in your blood relations, and trust they only seek your ‘well being’.  But experience always tends to give the test before the lesson and I have to admit, it’s insane the amount of stuff I see on a daily basis. 6 years of Med School, at least I was assured my friends wouldn’t walk out on me. One year at home with more time to hang out with kith and kin – I am seeing some really weird stuff! These are some things I could possibly never fathom doing –

  • Look at a blood relative | a friend | an acquaintance straight in the eye and LIE!
  • When confronted with the Truth, again have the AUDACITY to Lie on the Lie!

Like the tweet read earlier, once you realize the truth, sometimes, more often than not, irreparable damage has already occurred to the relation and how does one maintain a cordial relation anymore.The thought, the lie keeps lingering every time you talk to that person again. One becomes extra cautious, looks for things | searches for meanings which don’t really exist!

I am just not cut out to LIE, neither can I confront someone with one. Naive yet am learning, but would love to hear some suggestions on how you would respond if you were in my shoes!

With that to ponder over.. off I go!

P.S: I have lied times  a plenty, right from school days when I stole money from the piggy bank to buy sip ups, or broke the remote or cracked a window pane. But never with an intention of Malice.

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9 thoughts on “The Audacity to Lie

  1. Oh! Wanted to include this line by Jefferson in the earlier post, but somehow hit the enter button before posting…

    He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second and third time, till at length it becomes habitual; he tells lies without attending to it, and truths without the world’s believing him. This falsehood of the tongue leads to that of the heart, and in time depraves all its good dispositions.

    THOMAS JEFFERSON, letter to Peter Carr, Aug. 19, 1785

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  2. A draft in my blog (if I ever get around to publishing it) resembles this idea (lie). It’s a dodgy thing, especially where half-truths, unspoken-truths, unintentional or unknowing lies are involved.

    It’s got a lot to do with our society and raising. Watching my son grow, I can daily see the temptation of lying shaping up in his little mind – to hide or to cover something because he knows I might be upset/angry. Right now, his innocence makes him blurt out the truth (the fellow can’t even play a trick on me without giggling from the start), but sooner or later there will be a day when he would muster courage to lie to me because “What Mom doesn’t know won’t hurt her.”
    Just like how you stole money for sip-up, because if your Mom knows she will be cross…

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    • I hope you do publish it one day. Looking forward to it :). But your son’s intentions are good.. no malice whatsoever. The pedigree of environmental influence determines the outcome, in my opinion 🙂 and thanks for reading my post as always 🙂

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      • And I do hope, “These are some things I could possibly never fathom doing -” stays as such.
        People change, and we can’t even blame them.

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  3. @jean: 🙂 I have changed too, emotionally scarred.. changed my perspective on a few things. But doubt this will ever change, Its like me being scared of heights.. innate and default

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